A Calm Christmas: Considerations when relationships are under strain
Christmas is often presented as a time of joy, togetherness and celebration. But when a relationship is under strain, or has already broken down, the festive period can feel anything but calm.
We regularly hear from people who find Christmas magnifies existing tensions. Expectations are higher, emotions run closer to the surface, and practical arrangements suddenly feel far more complicated.
If you’re navigating relationship difficulties this Christmas, a little forethought can go a long way in helping things feel more manageable.
When tensions rise over the festive period
It’s not uncommon for Christmas to bring unresolved issues to the surface. Financial pressure, family expectations, alcohol, and time off work can all add strain to already fragile relationships.
Common issues we see at this time of year include:
- Arguments escalating more quickly than usual
- Disagreements about money and spending
- Pressure around family visits and commitments
- One party feeling excluded or unsupported
- Difficult conversations being avoided until they boil over
While legal action is rarely the first or best step, understanding your position can help you make calmer, more informed decisions.
Practical steps to reduce conflict
If possible, try to:
- Set realistic expectations; Christmas doesn’t have to be perfect
- Avoid big decisions during emotionally charged moments
- Keep communication factual and calm
- Step back if discussions become heated
If there are children involved, their wellbeing should remain the priority, even when emotions are running high.
Considering relationship support
If there is any possibility that your relationship could be repaired, it may be worth considering relationship or marriage counselling. In many cases, what feels like a major breakdown is often a breakdown in communication, something that, with the right support, can sometimes be addressed.
Exploring counselling doesn’t mean committing to a particular outcome. For some couples, it helps rebuild trust and understanding; for others, it brings clarity about next steps. Either way, it can provide space to talk things through away from the heightened pressures of the festive period.
Would it help to talk now?
You don’t need to be at breaking point to seek legal advice. Speaking to a solicitor early can help you:
- Understand your options if a relationship is deteriorating
- Clarify your rights around finances, property, or children
- Avoid making decisions in the heat of the moment that may have longer-term consequences
- Build an early relationship with someone that understands what you are going through, making it easier down the line.
- Often, reassurance and clarity are enough to reduce anxiety and allow you to focus on getting through the festive period.
Looking ahead
For some, Christmas becomes a turning point. For others, it’s simply something to get through. Either way, support is available.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure, a confidential conversation with a family law solicitor can help bring reassurance. To speak to one of our Family Team please call us on 0300 373 2424.
