Child Arrangements at Christmas: How to keep it peaceful
For separated parents, Christmas can be one of the most emotionally challenging times of the year. When routines change and emotions run high, disagreements over child arrangements can quickly escalate.
We regularly hear from parents who want to do the right thing for their children but find themselves facing uncertainty, conflict, or last-minute changes at what should be a special time.
Common issues:
Some of the most frequent problems we see include:
- Disagreements about where children will spend Christmas Day
- Changes to agreed arrangements at short notice
- Contact being withheld
- One parent wanting to travel with the children
- Confusion where arrangements aren’t clearly documented
These situations are stressful for parents and, most importantly, unsettling for children.
What does the law say?
If you have a Child Arrangements Order, it should be followed unless both parents agree otherwise. Changing arrangements without agreement can cause conflict and may have legal consequences.
If there is no formal order, the focus remains on what is in the child’s best interests. Courts encourage parents to agree arrangements themselves wherever possible.
Practical steps to reduce conflict
To help Christmas run more smoothly:
- Discuss arrangements early
- Put agreements in writing, even if informal
- Be clear about times, locations and handovers
- Avoid last-minute changes unless unavoidable
Children benefit from predictability and reassurance, especially during busy and emotional periods.
When problems arise
If arrangements break down, or contact is being withheld, legal advice can help you:
- Understand your rights
- Clarify what can and cannot be done
- Explore options such as negotiation, mediation, or court applications if necessary
Often, early advice can prevent a situation from escalating further.
Putting children first
Christmas doesn’t have to be perfect, but it should feel safe and stable for children. Taking a calm, informed approach can make a significant difference.
If you’re worried about child arrangements this Christmas, speaking to a family law solicitor can help you approach the situation with clarity and confidence. Please call us on 01483 901414 or through you preferred method on our contact page if a conversation would be helpful.
